When was the last time you and your husband set aside quality time — with no kids, no telephone interruptions, no discussions about household or external obligations of any kind — to just reconnect with one another on a deep, spiritual level? This would be a great gift to give a newlywed couple or a couple celebrating an anniversary. I shared this book with my husband and we are looking forward to planning 10 Great Dates together!
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Now you can reclaim that same spark, connection, and creativity in your marriage through ten intentional, memory-making dates. You can enrich your relationship and create years of special memories with the fun and creative dates inside this book. Here are a couple of examples:. Here are a couple of exampl Wyszukiwanie zaawansowane.
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Your children are gone or leaving soon. It's time to focus once again on your own future and especially on your marriage. What's in store for the second half? David and Claudia Arp provide answers and practical help in this groundbreaking book. Drawing on their national survey of hundreds of "second-half" couples, the Arps reveal eight marital challenges every long-term marriage faces, and they offer strategies and exercises for meeting each of them. The Second Half of Marriage will challenge you to create a vision for the rest of your life together -- and inspire you to make that vision a We were too exhausted even to talk!
Love in marriage is a delicate balancing act. Some things we can control; others we have to juggle. On that evening maybe Kendra and Matt should have gone home and curled up in bed with a book or watched a movie instead of forcing tired conversation over a meal. Whats your situation? Are you also time and energy challenged? What needs to take a lower priority so you can put your marriage first? For instance, in mapping out your schedule for the next several weeks, why not book date times before other commitments?
Schedule other commitments in the time you have left. When it comes to prioritizing marriage, such small choices and decisions may not seem very important, but they all add up. No matter how small the decision, make marriage your first priority. A Practical Tip for Putting Your Marriage First You can be proactive in prioritizing your marriage even while dealing with daily stresses. For example, you can begin to de-stress even before you get home.
Devote time on your way home from work to thinking positive thoughts about your partner. Allow your thoughts to dwell on a couple times when you felt really close to your spouse. Then when you get home, hug your spouse for twenty seconds. According to brain neurochemistry research, when you hug for at least twenty seconds you release oxytocin and endorphins into the blood stream, which decreases cortisol and other stress hormones, and thats why the twenty-second hug will help you de-stress!
Every marriage has problems. The difference between those that make it and those that dont is that the successful ones are committed to growing together and working to solve the problems that arise. A commitment to growth goes beyond just sticking together. Its also a commitment to adapt to each others changing needs. Jessica confided, Jackson and I have been married for only six years, yet we both have changed so much. If we change as much in the next six years, Im afraid well grow apart. How can we make it over the long haul? Our response to Jessicas question was to affirm that building a vibrant, long-term marriage requires a willingness to grow and adapt to each others changing needs.
We dont have to fear these changes. We just need to make it a habit to adjust continually to maintain the same loving, alive relationship. This is especially true for new parents. Lauren, who has an almost-one-year-old baby girl put it this way: Ive found that as a new mom, just when I think Ive figure it out, things change again. Over the past eleven months as a new mother, I have been caught off guard by how often my baby changes.
As soon as I have a sleeping and eating schedule down, she throws me a curve ball and we start all over! Its a never-ending challenge, but I am getting better at it. It can be the same in marriage. We will never get to a point where we can say, There! We have a great relationship so now we can stop trying. Marriage is always a work in progress. If we refuse to grow and change, we will only have a mediocre marriage. Adapting to each other requires self-sacrifice. It means being each others best friendthat one person the other can always count on.
What have you done lately to adapt to each other, to grow and change in response to each other?
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Do you share common interests? While you benefit from your differences, you also benefit from shared experiences. As you go through your ten dates, you will have opportunities to talk about things you would like to do together to build your friendship and to keep on understanding, adapting, and growing together. Unfortunately, many things tend to push us apartlike overcommitment or too much time using social media or surfing the internet, which both can lead to lack of sleep. To combat the things that push us apart, we try to avoid negative situations as much as possible.
For instance, when we find ourselves overcommitted once again, we try to pace ourselves and say no when we need to. When you have a choice to make, Working at staying close will help you build an intimate love relationship. In a healthy, growing marriage, partners complement each other and experience a unique oneness with each other through physical and emotional intimacy and of course, dating! They enjoy each other and are committed to building their friendship. They stay close through focusing on helping each other.
Any help we offer our spouse helps our marriage partnership. Any pain, hurt, insult, any lack of support or faithfulness, any failure to help our spouse will negatively impact our marriage. You can be the most positive, reinforcing person in your partners life if you are willing to follow these three principles of putting your marriage first, committing to growing together, and working at staying close.
Note from a Dating Couple Our first great date reminded us of some wonderful times weve shared and motivated us to start doing some of those things again. We smiled and talked a lot. Looking forward to Date Two! Time To Prioritize Your Marriage! Now its time for you to affirm that your marriage is a high priority. On this date you will take a trip down memory lane and together remember when you first met and how you couldnt bear to be apart. What attracted you to each other?
If you met online, what was your impression when you met in person? Focusing on good memories can remind you of how important your marriage is, and reliving your love story can reignite the spark in your relationship. You will also look at your marriage, affirm what is great about it, and consider. And remember to try a twenty-second hug! Turn to Date One in the Dating Guide and get ready to have a high-priority marriage! Stay positive.
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This is a great date! Talk about your relationship not your kids, job, or in-laws!
Be future focused. Dont bring up past issues. If you get on a negative track, stop and get a milkshake with two straws. If you get really stuck, ask for help. Use good communication skills. Be honest, yet never unkind. Start your sentences with I and let them ref lect back on you.
Resist attacking the other or defending yourself. Be specific and positive. Marriage On Date One you will remember why you got married in the first place and celebrate whats great about your relationship today.
Read through Date One Exercise and make notes. Looking over the questions before your date gives time for ref lection. Plus, if you arent as verbal as your spouse, writing out a few notes will give you time to formulate your thoughts and lead to more balanced sharing. Choose a destination for your date where you can easily talk with each other. If you want to launch your dates at your favorite restaurant, if possible make reservations ahead of time. The one making the reservations may want to let the place be a surprise. Make any necessary childcare arrangements. If you decide always to have your date on the same day and time each week, consider setting up childcare on a weekly basis for ten weeks.
Get excited! Treat this like you would have treated one of your first dates together. Remember, this is a date! Talk through the exercise one question at a time. Use your notes in Part 2: Whats Great about Us! Allow enough time for each question and take turns in sharing your answers. Life is stressful; work, family, screens, and other activities compete for your time.
If youre going to keep your relationship moving forward, you need to be proactive, grab time for each other, and set goals for your marriage. From our own time of crisis in marriage, we chose three goals to help us make our marriage a priority. You can do the same. First, look at and evaluate where your marriage is right now. The second goal is to set goals for the future. The third goal is to learn new relational skills to help your marriage grow.
On this date youll have the opportunity to review your past and look at your marriage as it is today. We suggest also reviewing the three principles for building a successful, high-priority marriage: Put your marriage first, commit to grow together, and work at staying close. You can make your marriage a high priority! Illegal to copy. Note that the two of you will likely remember different thingsor remember the same thing differentlyand thats okay! Simply sharing your memories together will make a great date. When was the first time you saw each other?
Or did you first meet online? What did you do? Where did you go? What do you remember most about your wedding day? The three things Id say are most positive about our relationship right now are: 1. Two things that are fine about our relationship but could be better are: 1. One thing I could do to make our relationship better is: 1. Find ways to compliment each other between now and the next date. Do that one thing you know you can do to make your marriage better.
Did you wonder what in the world could ever dampen your excitement? If you feel those emotions weakening, dont resign to the notion its inevitable. That deep, soul-satisfying connection can and will! Think simple, fun, zero-pressure. This book walks you through tips and conversation prompts that will help you connect clearly and deeply, share openly and in safety, get back to that place of fun sex, process disappointments as a unified team, enjoy each others quirks once again, and create balance in todays crazy-busy culture. Invest in your marriage today, and anticipate falling in love all over again to be your limitless return.
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